When we hear of BDSM we often think of sex dungeons, dominatrix, whips, leather and crazy sex scenarios that seem like a lifetime away for a lot of us. Here is the correct definition of BDSM. I want to teach you how you can have some kinky BDSM sex in your own home, with your partner, and without spending lots of money. Restraint is one of the first and easiest places to start when venturing into the world of BDSM. Restraint feels awesome for either partner, take turns tying each other up, and experience being submissive for the afternoon.